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By: Katie

Katie — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:27:07 +0000

Thank you for this comment! It touches my heart to hear that you are working to shield your daughter from all of that body negativity. I have vowed to do the same if I have a daughter someday. Your daughter is lucky to have such a great mom who is already building up her self-esteem!

By: Katie

Katie — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:24:30 +0000

I’m so glad you stumbled across my blog at just the right time! I totally know what you mean about fat-talking sneaking up on us…sometimes it seems like it just flies out of my mouth, totally out of the blue.

By: Katie

Katie — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:23:17 +0000

Yeah there is definitely a difference between the genders when it comes to fat-talking! I’m so glad to hear that your family is sensitive to your history with an ED; I’m sure having that support was/is very helpful!

By: Kelly B (at Local Foodie Fight)

Kelly B (at Local Foodie Fight) — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:09:13 +0000

I think because I have a history with an ED, my immediate family knows now not to fat talk, and my friends that I am close with don’t really do it much either. We just like to eat and the only time the fat talk really comes in was when it was the giant snow storm and all we did all day was sit inside and eat! that was an extreme case though. and it was more like “OK, my pants don’t fit after this week, damn you snowpocalypse!” hahah but seriously I had friends in HS that did the fat talk but not so much anymore. also helps that a lot of my friends are guys, and guys don’t fat talk really. or at least mine don’t!

By: Nicole, RD

Nicole, RD — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:09:04 +0000

Ugh, this is all so true, and sad. It makes us feel better about ourselves to fat talk in a group!? How horrible! I am guilty of this with my best friend. We’ve been fat together for so many years and revert back to bad habits and bad “fat” talk when we’re together. I am seeing her this weekend, I should work on changing this!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:52:28 +0000

This is my first time to your blog and it’s no coincidence this was your post today.

Like Tina, my fat talk has gotten so much better lately. But, it sneaks up on you out of nowhere sometimes. I caught myself doing it last night when I was very stressed about something completely related to my body and I guess it felt better to me to bash someone than to think about what I was stressed about. I caught myself and stopped it, but it’s so frustrating that it still comes up from time to time.

Thanks for the reminder.

By: Tina

Tina — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:45:55 +0000

I think it is so true that women will bond over fat talking! And that we will often times do it in a way to try to gain compliments and reassurance from the other. But that doesn’t accomplish anything.

I have really battled fat talking with myself lately and am doing it a LOT less. It feels great! But now I realize that is only part of the problem. I want to help my friends break that habit as well and the only way to do that is speak up and be an example. Great motivation!

By: Brooke

Brooke — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:12:29 +0000

Great post!!! I hate fat talk especially since I have suffered from an eating disorder for many years. I have a 3 year old little girl and have vowed never to talk negatively about my body in front of her and I have now learned not to talk negatively about my body at all. I also hate when there is negative food talk such as “I was so bad today I ate xyz…” My mom has a knack for saying things like this a lot and I have learned to call her out on it becuase I do not want my little girl to go through the struggles around food that I have.

By: Cara

Cara — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:03:39 +0000

I completely agree that fat talking is a way to bond with other women – and one that needs to stop!

And I think learning to accept compliments is key too. Some people just want to dwell in their fat feelings and not accept the fact that someone else sees something good in them (I’ve been there myself, for sure.)Part of what makes it difficult to me to share my concern with my friends who are feeling fat is that it can be received in so many different ways. If all of us could learn to accept compliments and be more open with each other, perhaps there would be less fat talking all along.